Postponing s*x till marriage not a guarantee of a happily ever after

Whether it’s Yes or No every opinion on premarital sex is personal and are worth holding on to. In the subject of premarital sex, there are two camps: “Do it before marriage ” and “Do it after marriage -” each camp stand firm to their belief and honestly believing on its advantages. Everybody sees life in different ways and has their preferences. Instead of criticizing one side as sinners and the others as a hypocrite, we should tolerate one other and not force it down each other’s throats.

Those who have no problem with premarital sex justify their positions with numerous reasons such as the needs to know if it is a carrot or cucumber, test the product before purchasing and also to see if he/she is a good or bad sex mate. On the other side, those who frown against sex before marriage can argue and say testing the product before purchase does not assure it will last and that knowing whether a girlfriend/ boyfriend is a good or bad sex mate can be determined without having sex. Well, I still can’t wrap my head around that one. How is that possible?

For those who stand against premarital sex, their reasons are most times rooted in religion and the fear of God, which the Bible strongly forbids. Apart from being forbidden in Christianity, Islam and other faiths, many who go against it hold firmly to the opinion that making love to someone at the dating stage makes them lose their value and stand the risk of getting pregnant and contracting sexually transmitted diseases. They also say that when partners restrain from sex until marriage, Both of them will have no other experience to compare the sex in their marriage and this is a great thing as it allows partners have an enjoyable sex life and mature into their sexuality.

While all of these opinions have their advantages and sound reasonable in their ways, there is one that still bakes my noodles– the idea that shunning premarital sex allows partners to have a good a marriage that lasts forever. Let’s call a spade a spade; whether or not you had slept with your partner before marriage, if there is no understanding between couples, that marriage will fail, scatter, and crash. Also, without other critical ingredients like honesty, trust, cooperation, and communication, your marriage will be heading for the rocks.

If this opinion that shunning premarital sex makes marriages last longer is to be believed, then the inference to be perceived from it would be that couples who had premarital sex won’t last long in marriage. Of course, that is nonsense! The things that make marriages crumble are usually far from this. So whether you engage in premarital sex or not as long as you both understand and cooperate, your marriage will be blissful and will undoubtedly last forever.